“Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth.” (Proverbs 5:18)

Since publishing Awakening Love with Essential Oils in February, the response has been overwhelmingly positive. I was so thankful to discover that it had been helpful to so many Christian couples. Sexual intimacy within marriage is an awesome gift that God intended to bring joy, comfort, and unity between a husband and wife (as well as to usher in future generations of godly families!).

However, talking about this subject also exposed an additional problem that many are facing. I’ve received numerous appeals from people desperate for help. You see, some couples struggle with challenges that go well beyond scented sheets and romantic massages. There are some husbands who simply are not physically able to participate in intimacy like they once did. They struggle with what is known as sexual function difficulties.

While there are a number of potential root causes, the American Diabetes Association reported that 70 percent of men with low testosterone levels also have difficulty physically maintaining normal sexual function. 63 percent have a low sex drive.

As men get older, their testosterone levels gradually decrease. After the age of 30, men, on average, lose approximately one percent of their testosterone level per year. But the natural drop of this important hormone has been exacerbated by our polluted environment, poor diet, and unhealthy lifestyle.

Dr. Dan Purser, a physician who specializes in male and female hormone issues, recommends that men maintain a hormone level of 800-1400 ng/dl. If your husband is struggling with low sex drive or sexual dysfunction, you might suggest that he get a testosterone test. There are inexpensive, saliva-based tests available on Amazon or at Costco. While these are less accurate than blood tests, they can still give you a reasonable estimation of how his testosterone levels are doing.

http://www.dreamstime.com/royalty-free-stock-photos-human-head-hearts-brain-shape-blue-red-image36355378Note: If you and your husband have consulted a doctor and have ruled out any physical reasons for his sexual dysfunction, consider sitting down and talking openly about any emotional or spiritual issues that may be going on. Sometimes, unresolved conflict, trust issues, or ongoing tension can negatively affect physical performance.

Also, scientific research has revealed that porn use is a growing cause of sexual dysfunction in men—even young men. It can affect and alter the brain in the same way drug addiction does. This is a huge issue that should not be ignored. Though THIS LINK is disturbing, it proves beyond a shadow of a doubt, that porn destroys lives. Get help! Your marriage bed, and your marriage itself, is worth it!

Now, before we go on, please remember that I am not a doctor. This article is written for educational purposes only, and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any disease or illness. None of these statements have been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. What I’m about to share shouldn’t be taken as a substitute for qualified medical advice. So, take charge of your own health and talk to your doctor or healthcare provider.

I am thankful that my husband and I enjoy a mutually satisfying marriage bed. And, though I am married to a man in his mid-fifties, thus far, we haven’t had to deal with sexual dysfunction. So, I’m not sharing from expertise or experience. I’m only sharing what I’ve gathered from my own personal research.

I have worked hard to feed my family healthy, whole foods—foods that haven’t been tainted, manipulated, or morphed. We avoid white flour and sugar, processed foods, dyes, GMOs, soy, preservatives, MSG, etc. So, we have been proactive in our attempt to stay healthy and strong.

1508588_10203007493246772_851133704_nBut, James and I both know from our research that, as men age, their testosterone decreases. And, without deliberate care, this could impact even the healthiest of men.

So, what I am going to share includes some of the things James does to maintain his already normal testosterone levels, as well as some research that may help those struggling with sexual dysfunction.

First, I suggest you try to maintain normal testosterone levels naturally. Start with a balanced diet. But, make sure your diet also includes broccoli, cauliflower, and cabbage. These vegetables may help boost testosterone levels by removing estrogens, which actually lower testosterone!

Interestingly, studies have suggested that higher fat (the good kind) and cholesterol consumption may also increase total testosterone levels! Eat more avocados! Also, raw milk and butter, extra virgin olive oil, coconut oil, organic meats and eggs are all great choices!

http://www.dreamstime.com/royalty-free-stock-images-middle-aged-man-workout-healthy-beach-morning-image30945079Exercise is also important. Recently, James began powerwalking 4-5 miles per day, as well as working out with his mace (yes, a mace) at least three times a week. Exercise encourages testosterone production. And, exercise decreases body fat (which has been shown to convert testosterone into estrogen)!

And, don’t forget sleep! Researchers at the University of Chicago found that men who slept less than five hours a night for one week had lower testosterone levels than when they were fully rested. The drop was typically 10-15%!

A good night’s sleep of 8-9 hours has been shown not to only increase testosterone, but also to help manage cortisol levels, a stress hormone that has been shown to negatively impact testosterone levels when present in high amounts.

Stress is another culprit. Stress increases cortisol; and, again, cortisol is a testosterone killer! If you want a more satisfying marriage bed, do all you can to decrease stress!

http://www.dreamstime.com/stock-images-middle-aged-man-front-medicine-cabinet-image21131474Stay away from household toxins, especially those that contain xenoestrogens! Xenoestrogen is a chemical that mimics estrogen in the body, and significantly decreases testosterone levels. And, it is everywhere! From shampoos and lotions, to plastic water bottles and storage containers, to paints and new carpet, and more! Read more HERE.

Examine your household and find ways to replace toxic chemically laden products with natural alternatives! Use glass instead of plastic. Choose natural cleaning and beauty care products. Replace synthetic air fresheners with essential oils. It may cost a little more, but your health is worth more than you know!

Quality supplements should be a part of every man’s routine. James takes Young Living’s True Source everyday, as well as OmegaGize, and Super B. Omega-3 fish oils, B vitamins, and minerals like zinc have been shown to help maintain testosterone levels already within the normal range.


In addition, James has been taking Idaho Blue Spruce for quite some time now. He applies four drops on his forearms every morning.

true sourceOther oils, like Goldenrod can help support male vitality and sexual function. The literature suggests taking 3-5 drops at night under the tongue, or even applying one drop to the perineum before intimacy.

Oil mixtures have also been reported to help some men. Taking a capsule filled with 2 drops each of ginger, marjoram, rosemary, and cypress at least 1 hour before intercourse has been recommended.

Dr. Scott Johnson also suggested that a diluted mixture comprised of 1 drop each of cypress, goldenrod, helichrysum, and ginger applied around the base of the penis approximately 30 minutes before intercourse has been helpful to some men.

shutranAt the 2014 Young Living Convention, the company introduced a new blend called Shutran. This blend is comprised of a number of aromatic oils, many of which have proven to be beneficial to testosterone production and other men’s health issues.

Shutran contains Idaho Blue Spruce, Ocotea, Hinoki, Ylang Ylang, Coriander, Davana, Cedarwood, Lemon, and Lavender. We bought some at Convention and James is now using it in conjunction with Idaho Blue Spruce. And it smells amazing! I told him he should wear it as cologne!

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God has designed married couples to love and support one another in many ways—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Sexual intimacy is a true and lasting gift of all three. It is full of bonding, joy, stress-relief, trust-building, pleasure, fellowship…and great fun!

And age does not have to stand in the way! God called men to enjoy the wife of their youth, and by taking charge of his health, a man can do just that – even well into his golden years!

If you experience any discomfort after applying oils or blends to sensitive areas, apply V-6, or a fatty oil (such as coconut oil or olive oil) and all will be well.

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