DISCLAIMER: God designed the marriage bed to be exciting, beautiful, exhilarating, and EXCLUSIVE! My husband and I have often told those we’ve counseled, “Christian couples should have the most passionate, fun bedrooms in the world!”
That’s why this portion of my website is here. I want to help women experience the breathtaking joy of godly sexual intimacy! While these articles are written for married women, and I’ve tried to be as discreet as possible, please enter at your own risk.
Combine the deep, intoxicating effects of essential oils with an evening of loving, sensual touch to arouse intense desire between you and your husband! You’ll be amazed how “on board” he suddenly becomes with your essential oil habit! In fact, you may come home to find a new stash of oils on your bed each night!
“How much better than wine is your love, and the scent of your perfumes.” Song of Solomon 4:10
Scent and touch are such an amazing combination for bonding with your lover. A memory maker, a bonder, a scent-sual responder! Oh yeah!
Take Your Time
And remember, just like anything of value, practice. makes. perfect. The more the better!
And while you’re practicing, take the time to study and recognize one another’s desires and prompts.
Does his breathing increase or do you sense an excited response? Keep going. Does he not seem to respond? Try something else. Experiment. You have all night, darling. Take your time!
Be sure to let him know what works and doesn’t work. I assure you, it’s totally worth it to be honest about what you like and don’t like right from the beginning. Otherwise, you may spend years in futility.
Allow yourself time to relax and enjoy—to willingly respond and engage. Take the time to relish his touch – to memorize it – to linger on the very thought. To imagine. Explore, feel, taste, smell, listen, watch, communicate, reveal, and enjoy!
My beloved put his hand
By the latch of the door,
And my heart yearned for him. – Song of Solomon 5:4
The “yearning” feeling is what we’re after. So, set out right from the beginning with a mutual decision to take. your. time. Most women spend more time planning dinner than they do planning a night of bliss with hubby.
If you prepare a peanut butter and jelly night, it may be just what you get! So PLAN for filet mignon! Clean your bedroom, take a shower or bath, fix yourself up, light candles, string lights, scent your sheets, and get ready for the best part of the day!
A bundle of myrrh is my beloved to me, that lies all night between my breasts. (Song of Solomon 1:13)
Men are created so differently than women. Many women who seem to have cooled off in the bedroom simply aren’t giving themselves enough time to get going. That’s why practicing the art of intimate touch using essential oils may be exactly what you both need to heat things up! Neither one of you will be sorry!
There are plenty of oils that are excellent choices for the bedroom, but I’m going to give you just a few in this post. No worries – there will be many more to come! Tips and testimonies! I’ll also throw in some great recipes (massage oils, lube oils, pillow sprays, tasting fun etc.) to get things cooking! So keep a look out!
Sandalwood, rose, neroli, myrrh, and Lady Sclereol, as well as the Young Living blends, Present Time, Three Wise Men, and Live Your Passion, are some of my favorite recommendations for intimate massage and sensual exploration.
Sandalwood’s mysterious musky aroma blends particularly well with the body’s own natural scent, making it perfect for a romantic evening.
Misty Moisty Mama
Most of the oils I recommend can be used intimately and applied directly to “sensitive” areas. Yes, really. A woman I know recently told me that she discovered the blend Lady Sclereol helped with occasional dryness, and its gentle warmth helped to stimulate libido when applied/massaged…um…“directly!” (Yes, THERE!) Live a little!
I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with liquid myrrh, on the handles of the lock. (Song of Solomon 5:5)
You can also apply a drop or two of Clary Sage, Sensation, or Lady Sclereol (undiluted) to the inner thighs and pubic bone before…bed.
If you’re not into mixing your own massage oils, Young Living offers Sensation Massage Oil that is absolutely intoxicating!
Tell hubby you need a little priming first, and see if he minds getting you warmed up with a nice, stimulating intimate massage. I bet he volunteers for the job! And tell him it will be worth the wait.
“Turn up the Heat” Lubricant*
- 1 tsp. carrier oil
- 15 drops Sensation Oil
- 5 drop black pepper
- 1 drop bergamot
Or, if you’re feeling daring, and want something a little more “tingly” for intimate massage or lubrication, try mixing a drop or two of peppermint, black pepper, or ginger into a carrier oil like sweet almond or coconut oil. Wow! But remember, a little dab’ll do ya!
Once again, while most of these oils can be used neat (undiluted), I still suggest that you have a carrier oil on hand “just in case.” Everybody’s sensitivity tolerance is different, so try experimenting on less sensitive areas first.
Warning: Be ready! Essential oils in the bedroom can cause PFST (Post Fantastic Stress Transformation). May I suffer from it and never recover!!!! The brain often associates scents with memories; so, be ready to have flashbacks of the exotic evening you had with your beloved every time you smell your favorite intimacy oils…and try not to blush in public!
*Because everyone is different, I would suggest having a carrier oil available (V6, olive oil, coconut oil etc., just in case you or your husband find any of the oils a little too stimulating. And use CAUTION when applying a spicy oil to sensitive skin. Always either dilute with a carrier oil or have one handy, just in case!
NOTE: I only recommend Young Living Therapeutic Grade Essential Oils, since lower quality oils may be toxic.